By Rebekah Hurst, editor
Scott and Christina Howard have experienced the same heartbreak that many married couples have endured while trying to have biological children; years of trying, only to get pregnant and a few weeks later their dreams shattered in loss. The Howards have experienced this more than once.
“This was hard, what I had wanted so badly had just gone away,” said Christina.
Scott and Christina then tried adoption.
“We did some research and talked to some people and decided to try and adopt through a contracted company with DCS,” she said. “We did all the paperwork and started our search for our child. Well, this ‘dream’ I had of finding our child through the system didn’t turn out as I thought it would, to say the least.”
The couple had a bad experience and decided to pursue another option, seeing a fertility doctor and beginning fertility treatments.
“Well, all the tests came back and we both were fine, so why then are we having issues not getting pregnant? Yeah, no one could answer that. So our next step was to start oral medication for a couple of months; yet again, there were two months and still not pregnant,” said Christina.
“So we went back in to talk with the doctor and the next step was IUI (Intrauterine Insemination). For anyone who hasn’t been to the fertility doctor, it’s not cheap. So we talked about it, prayed about it, and decided to try it three months. Why three months you wonder? For starters, that’s all that we had saved up for. After three months the doctor then wants to take the next step (which would be IVF). So we did the oral drugs along with a shot and did the IUI and the first month we got pregnant. Oh I was so scared those first few weeks.”
Weeks turned into months and finally, Michael was here and healthy.
“How wonderful our life was/has been with Michael. He has brought us so much joy, it’s indescribable,” she said.
Excited and encouraged over the birth of Michael, Scott and Christina decided to try again with the hope of conceiving a sibling for their son. Sadly, the couple received heartbreaking news twice more.
“I think everything happens for a reason, sometimes we don’t understand the reasons, and sometimes we do,” Christina said. “All along we have wanted to adopt, but I guess we’ve never known the right time to do so. The financial part is a big part of what’s always held us back but for some reason right now I feel like this is our time to adopt. Right now is when God is telling me to jump in, it will all work out, have faith.”
After spending many hours talking, praying, and seeking God’s will, Scott and Christina came to a decision.
“We’ve decided to listen to God and jump in,” she said. “We’re both scared, scared because of the cost, scared of not getting our child that God has intended us to have, scared of how long it will take to make our family complete. But at the end of the day, we can’t be scared.”
To help raise money for the hefty adoption costs, the Howards decided to participate in a program called Both Hands. Both Hands is an organization that helps families fundraise for their adoptions by coaching a team of volunteers gathered by the family, and helping them coordinate a service project fixing up a widow’s home. To raise money, the family and their team send letters seeking sponsorship for their day for service. The funds raised help an orphan be adopted into a forever family.
In searching for a widow in need of assistance, the Howards put a request out on Facebook and their church Facebook page and a fellow church member contacted them about Mrs. Nancy Hunter. They set up a meeting with Mrs. Hunter and told her about Both Hands and asked if she’d be willing to accept the help.
She accepted and the Both Hands team worked tirelessly one Saturday seeing to many home repairs and much needed yard work. With the help of sponsors Walker Nursery, Manchester Building Supply, Volunteer Paint, and C & G Sheet Metal, Inc, the team was able to repair trim on the home as well as finish the trim on Mrs. Hunter’s sunroom that her husband started building before he passed away. In addition, the team cleaned out the garage, replaced the garage door opener and an outside door on her garage, too. For yard work, the team dug up old bushes, weeded, replanted flower beds and revamped Mrs. Hunter’s garden.
The Howards are currently on the waiting list for a child but have been told the adoption could be at any time. For those that would like more information or would like to help the Howards raise money for their adoption, contact information and a video of their Both Hands project may be seen at www.bothhands.org/project/Howard.
“We are hoping with some fundraising, lots of research and searching, and lots of prayer, that we will be able to find our child and complete our family.”