Grief is easier to handle when there’s hope

Adam Cutshaw, who lost his father, Scott Cutshaw, to a car accident, deals with the pain with the help of his faith and the notion that future will bring happiness and hope. On the day following Scott’s funeral, Adam and his wife, Whitney, learned they are expecting twins, and the news filled their lives with expectation and optimism. They encourage all those who might be going through rough times to lean on faith and not give in to desperation.

Adam Cutshaw, who lost his father, Scott Cutshaw, Nov. 9 to a car accident, deals with the pain with the help of his faith. Adam also finds strength in the notion that future will bring happiness and hope.

On the day after Scott’s funeral, Adam and his wife, Whitney, learned they are expecting twins, and that news filled their lives with expectation and optimism. They encourage all those who might be going through rough times to lean on faith and not give in to desperation.

Adam recalled Scott and his love for family and friends.

“The funeral director told us that was the most people they had ever seen at a funeral,” Adam said. “It maxed out the church – it was completely full, people standing everywhere. That’s just a testament of who he really was. He really impacted a lot of people. The main thing that kept being brought up was that he loved everyone. He just would look people in the eye and say, ‘I love you’ and he would mean it, even to grown men that were his friends, to everyone. As the Bible says, ‘He, who has been forgiven much, loves much,’ and dad knew what it was like to be forgiven by the savior, so he had this wellspring of love to show to people.”

In addition to having a strong faith, Scott was “vocal and upfront, direct and very loving.”

Scott loved his family.

“He would tell his children multiple times, ‘I am proud of you and these are the reasons why I am proud of you,’” Adam said. “He would always sing praises to my mother, his wife. He also loved the outdoors, he loved to camp, and he loved to hike. He loved to fish. He was very active.”

Scott continued to give even after the car accident.

“He was a donor,” Adam said. “We know for a fact they were able to harvest his kidneys. That’s just who he was – he wanted to give. That’s a testament – even in his death, he was giving.”

He saved the lives of at least two people, said Adam.

“Two lives have been furthered and the families’ sorrows have been spared,” Adam said.

Adam is thankful to the community for the support.

“The community has been very kind,” Adam said. “We have seen massive outpouring of letters, cards, messages, visitations. It seems that when you have a hardship in your life it does one of two things: either draws you closer to God or hardens your heart. And for us…our hearts have been drawn in closer to God…to be kinder and loving to others.”

Learning they are expecting twins has provided additional hope.

“We have three children right now – Karaline, 7, Kalel, 5, and a 10-month old, RC,” Whitney said. “And we are expecting twins. We just found out. We have known for a couple of months we were expecting. But we had our first appointment Monday (after the funeral), and the (doctor) said she had a surprise for us. She showed us the two heartbeats on the monitor. So we are expecting twins.”

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